5 Things That Are Very Important to the Men You Date

by Randy 09/02/10

A lot of men have jokes and even do stand up comedy on the things a man wants in a woman. I can’t tell you what every man wants in a woman, but I can tell you from a female’s perspective that you can only control so much. Most times when I’m giving advice or sharing a story to teach a lesson, I tend to say, “The men you want to date aren’t stupid enough to play your childish games.” A friend of mine was in NYC for a weekend and she wanted to make time to see a couple guys she had been trying to get to know better and still party. I told her, “Listen, these guys who you want to date can tell when you’re full of crap. They notice when you cancel or push things back or ask them to meet you some other place. Admin Note: No one dates at the club. If the person you are dating asks you to meet them at the club, tell them to get at you when they actually want to hang out. Nonetheless, here are five things that are VERY important to the men you want to date.

Be Reliable
A man admires a woman when he can rest assured that if she said it, it will be. An example of what not to do would be if a guy asks you to pick him up from the airport on Sunday afternoon and you hit him up on Sunday and say, “Would you mind catching a cab? I was trying to go to brunch with my friends.” Men like being able to depend on a woman to do what she says she will do. No one asks you to make a commitment but once you do, exhibit the ability to see it through.

Be Cool
A woman is full within her right to say, “I’m not your friend, I’m your girlfriend.” That’s fair game. So that’s not what I mean by “cool.” I’m talking about keeping a cool head. We will get angry and sometimes that will cause us to act out of character, but it’s important to men to see that you will not erupt in anger whenever there is an issue. Learning how to communicate and carry yourself without showing anger and emotion really goes a long way with a guy.

Be Adventurous
When you’re a man, “can’t” shouldn’t be in your vocabulary, and when you’re a woman the same can be said for, “ain’t.” Men like when you are open to trying new things. Even if you’re uncomfortable with it, men like that you are willing to do it.

Me – Baby, you want to go whitewater rafting?
Her – I ain’t going no whitewater rafting, my hair, fool! [BBM Talk To the Hand Face]
Her – I’ve heard it’s fun, I’d definitely like to go. I just have to figure out what to do with my hair. Do you know any other Black girls who have gone? [BBM Dancing Face]

Be Motivational
Recently, a good friend of mine got married to his girlfriend of what I want to say was five years. When I asked him why he did it, he said, “Because she inspires me to be better.” Men love this quality in a woman. We know that we can do better, but we don’t want to hear it most of the time. Firing on us about how we could be making more money and doing more around the house isn’t productive because it won’t solve the problem. Supporting your man while he studies for the LSAT and struggles to get the practice score that he feels comfortable with, goes the furthest.

Be There
This is really easy, yet it can be so hard for a woman to understand. I’ll try my best to simplify it for you. If your man just got back in town, make it a priority to see him, moreover, take the time to ask him how his trip went and let him know you care about his life. If I’m not going out because my mother has been sick lately and I’d rather not be around people, don’t take this as an opportunity to party it up with your girlfriends. Be there for me. What I’m asking for in a partner is that you be there when it’s not fun because it’s important that you do so. Often times you find people in relationships only when they’re convenient. Some men don’t know any better, they will be at home broke and depressed or sick and shut in, while their girlfriend is out and about. The difference between the girl I’m dating and someone I’m looking to have a meaningful relationship with is that they are there for me all the time. The term, “She holds me down” didn’t come from thin air.

In conclusion, I didn’t want to give you the stereotypical answers for what’s important to men. I’m trying to explain to the female gender what this ambiguous thing called, “It” is when it comes to women. There’s several things that will tell you how to get or keep a man, but these are the things they won’t tell you. These are the five things that your bust size, hip size, or eye color can’t do for your relationship. Do these, do them well, and it might just help you keep a man.

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MESSAGE TO MARRIED COUPLES AND SINGLES WHO INTEND TO GET MARRIED

To All Married Couples and Singles Who Intend To Get Married.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner,
I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell
you. She sat down and ate quietly.
Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I
didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her
know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised
the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she
asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This
made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and
shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we
didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she
wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage.
But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she
had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I
didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce
agreement which stated that she could own our house,
our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The
woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had
become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time,
resources and energy but I could not take back what I
had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried
loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected
to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release.
The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several
weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her
writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper
but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast
because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table
writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was
asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions:
she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's
notice before the divorce. She requested that in that
one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as
possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his
exams in a months time and she didn’t want to disrupt
him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more,
she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out
bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I
carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever
morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to
make our last days together bearable I accepted her
odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She
laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter
what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce,
she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my
divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I
carried her out on the first day, we both appeared
clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding
mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of
pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to
the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my
arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell
our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat
upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to
wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.


On the second day, both of us acted much more easily.
She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of
her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this
woman carefully for a long time. I realised she was
not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her
face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its
toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done
to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a
sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who
had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth
and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy
was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It
became easier to carry her as the month slipped by.
Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried
on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable
one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown
bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so
thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more
easily.
Suddenly it hit me. She had buried so much pain and
bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time
to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying
his mother out had become an essential part of his
life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and
hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I
was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute.
I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom,
through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand
surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her
body tightly, it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last
day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a
step. Our son had gone to school.
I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our
life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly
without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would
make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew
opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do
not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my
forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her
hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't
divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because
she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not
because we didn't love each other any more. Now I
realise that since I carried her into my home on our
wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do
us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me
a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into
tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of
flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to
write on the card. I smiled and
wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do
us apart.
The small details of your lives are what really matter
in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car,
property , the money in the bank, blah..blah.. blah.
These create an environment conducive for happiness
but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time
to be your spouse's friend and do those little things
for each other that
build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you,
but if you do, you
just might save a marriage.

GOD BLESS US ALL

Randy Writes……

PASSION

Passion Bulids Businesses but Not Fear.

40 MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHILE HAVING SEX WITH WOMEN

40 Mistakes Men Make While Having Sex With Women

1) NOT KISSING FIRST.
Avoiding her lips and diving straight for the erogenous zones makes her feel like you're paying by the hour and trying to get your money's worth by cutting out nonessentials. A proper passionate kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay.

2) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR.
Admit it, some kid at school told you girls love this. Well, there's a difference between being erotic and blowing as if you're trying to extinguish the candles on your 50th birthday cake. That hurts.

3) NOT SHAVING.
You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which you rake repeatedly across your partner's face and thighs. When she turns her head
from side to side, it's not passion, it's avoidance.

4) SQUEEZING HER BREAST.
Most men act like a housewife testing a melon for ripeness when they get their hand on a pair. Stroke, caress, and smooth them.

5) BITING HER NIPPLES.
Why do men fasten onto a woman's nipples, then clamp down like they're trying to deflate her body via her breasts? Nipples are highly sensitive. They can't stand up to chewing. Lick and suck them gently. Flicking your
tongue across them is good. Pretending they're a doggie toy isn't.

6) TWIDDLING HER NIPPLES.
Stop doing that thing where you twiddle the nipples between finger and thumb like you're trying to find a radio station in a hilly area. Focus on the whole breasts, not just the exclamation points.

7) IGNORING THE OTHER PARTS OF HER BODY.
A woman is not a highway with just three turnoffs: Breastville East and West, and the Midtown Tunnel. There are vast areas of her body which you've ignored far too often as you go bombing straight into downtown Vagina. So start paying them some attention.

8) GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED.
Poor manual dexterity in the underskirt region can result in tangled fingers and underpants. If you're going to be that aggressive, just ask her to take the damn things off.

9) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT.
Condom disposal is the man's responsibility. You wore it, you store it.

10) ATTACKING THE CLITORIS.
Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your fingers along side of the clitoris.

11) STOPPING FOR A BREAK.
Women, unlike men, don't pick up where they left off. If you stop, they plummet back to square one very fast. If you can tell she's not there, keep going at all costs, numb jaw or not.

12) UNDRESSING HER AWKWARDLY.
Women hate looking stupid, but stupid she will look when naked at the waist with a sweater stuck over her head. Unwrap her like an elegant present, not a kid's toy.

13) GIVING HER A WEDGIE DURING FOREPLAY.
Stroking her gently through her panties can be very sexy. Pulling the material up between her thighs and yanking it back and forth is not.

14) BEING OBSESSED WITH THE VAGINA.
Although most men can find the clitoris without maps, they still believe that the vagina is where it's all at. No sooner is your hand down there than you're trying to stuff stolen banknotes up a chimney. This is okay in principle, but if you're not careful, it can hurt - so don't get carried
away. It's best to pay more attention to her clitoris and the exterior of her vagina at first, then gently slip a finger inside her and see if she likes it.

15) MASSAGING TOO ROUGHLY.
You're attempting to give her a sensual, relaxing massage to get her in the mood. Hands and fingertips are okay; elbows and knees are not.

16) UNDRESSING PREMATURELY.
Don't force the issue by stripping before she's at least made some move toward getting your stuff off, even if it's just undoing a couple of buttons.

17) TAKING YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST.
A man in socks and underpants is at his worst. Lose the socks first.

18) GOING TOO FAST.
When you get to the penis-in-vagina situation, the worst thing you can do is pump away like an industrial power tool - she'll soon feel like an assembly line worker made obsolete by your technology. Build up slowly,
with clean, straight, regular thrusts.

19) GOING TOO HARD.
If you bash your great triangular hip bones into her thigh or stomach, the pain is equal to two weeks of horseback riding concentrated into a few seconds.

20) COMING TOO SOON.
Every man's fear. With reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH.
It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the mark of a sex god, but to her it's more likely the mark of a numb vagina. At least buy some intriguing wall hangings, so she has something to hold her
interest while you're playing Marathon Man.

Addendum: Personally, I would add to the marathon man comments: if you're lasting forever with oral sex, be polite, give her a rest and possibly a reasuring kiss. Lock jaw hurts! ~Charlotte Boileau

22) ASKING IF SHE HAS COME.
You really ought to be able to tell. Most women make noise. But if you really don't know, don't ask.

23) PERFORMING ORAL SEX TOO GENTLY.
Don't act like a giant cat at a saucer of milk. Get your whole mouth down there, and concentrate on gently rotating or flicking your tongue on her clitoris.

24) NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN.
Men persist in doing this until she's eyeball-to-penis, hoping that it will lead very swiftly to mouth-to-penis. All women hate this. It's about three steps from being dragged to a cave by their hair. If you want her to
use her mouth, use yours; try talking seductively to her.

25) NOT WARNING HER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX.
Sperm tastes like sea water mixed with egg white. Not everybody likes
it. When she's performing oral sex, warn her before you come so she can do what's necessary.

26) MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO.
Don't thrust. She'll do all the moving during fellatio. You just lie there. And don't grab her head.

27) TAKING ETIQUETTE ADVICE FROM PORN MOVIES.
In X-rated movies, women seem to love it when men ejaculate over them. In real life, it just means more laundry to do.

28) MAKING HER RIDE ON TOP FOR AGES.
Asking her to be on top is fine. Lying there grunting while she does all the hard work is not. Caress her gently, so that she doesn't feel quite so much like the captain of a schooner. And let her have a rest.

29) ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT.
This is how men earn a reputation for not being able to follow directions. If you want to put it there, ask her first. And don't think that being drunk is an excuse.

30) TAKING PICTURES.
When a man says, "Can I take a photo of you?" she'll hear the words"__to show my buddies." At least let her have custody of them.

31) NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH.
Imagination is anything from drawing patterns on her back to pouring honey on her and licking it off. Fruit, vegetables, ice and feathers are all handy
props; hot candle wax and permanent dye are a no no.

32) SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH AGAINST HERS.
There is no less erotic noise. It's as sexy as a belching contest.

33) ARRANGING HER IN STUPID POSES.
If she wants to do advanced yoga in bed, fine, but unless she's a Romanian
gymnast, don't get too ambitious. Ask yourself if you want a sexual partner with snapped hamstrings.

34) LOOKING FOR HER PROSTATE.
Read this carefully: Anal stimulation feels good for men because they have a prostate. Women don't.

35) GIVING LOVE BITES.
It is highly erotic to exert some gentle suction on the sides of the neck, if you do it carefully. No woman wants to have to wear turtlenecks and jaunty scarves for weeks on end.

36) BARKING INSTRUCTIONS.
Don't shout encouragement like a coach with a megaphone. It's not a big turn-on.

37) TALKING DIRTY.
It makes you sound like a lonely magazine editor calling a 1-900line. If she likes nasty talk, she'll let you know

38) NOT CARING WHETHER SHE COMES.
You have to finish the job. Keep on trying until you get it right, and she might even do the same for you.

39) SQUASHING HER.
Men generally weigh more than women, so if you lie on her a bit too heavily, she will turn blue.

40) THANKING HER.
Never thank a woman for having sex with you. Your bedroom is not a soup kitchen.

~Unknown

And by request, number 41:

*Being unable to get an erection, then joining the facebook group '50 Mistakes Women Make When Having Sex'* ~ K. R.

Sid Howard (Birmingham UK) (on women):
Instead of telling guys what they like, or ever talking about sex, posting it all on a facebook group instead.

And another request:

42) Looking at women poster pin-ups while having sex. Regardless, if your boyfriend/prospective boyfriend has nudie pics in his room into his 20s, dump him. It's warning sign enough. ~K.R.

43.) "thinking that most girls come after 2 minutes of oral sex" ~Alissa Warner

44.) "not returning the favour: thinking that if a guy fingers you he should automatically get oral sex" ~Alissa Warner

45.) "guys thinking that every girl likes very aggressive dry sex." ~Alissa Warner

46.) comparing her to past partners ~Liz M.

47.) humming theme songs.... just put on some damn music and keep your mouth shut.... ~Liz M.

48.) Putting their hands behind their head when receiving oral- that is the worst. ~ Kate Scott
***
Just a quick point bout number 48, if men put there hands behind there head its a form of ody language, it means they are comfortable and are 'welcoming' you into there personal space. its a good thing girls, honest, plus it means ur good at wat ur doing!~Hayley Ciepkiewicz

49.) "treat us mean, keep us keen" DOES NOT WORK, DONT DO IT ! ~Pamela Wheeler

50) SAYING YOU'RE STONED AS REASONABLE JUSTIFICATION FOR LASTING 5 SECONDS, OR AN EXCUSE NOT TO HAVE SEX AT ALL.

It is your duty and priority to have sex on demand and properly. If you don't get it right then your head will be biten off preying mantis style, and the weed superglued to your ball sack. ~K.R.

51.) Cuddling up together and watching a nice film can lead to sex. however, making your girl watch a horror film and then trying your luck will get you nowhere - werewolves, zombies, axe-murderers, etc do NOT get us horny. ~Samantha Jayne Hobbs

52) Not enough time for foreplay! women need at least 17 1/2 minutes of foreplay before she is actually ready! Just because she feels wet down there doesn't necessarily mean that she is ready. Her reaction is a bit slower when it comes to sex.~Robin Michelle Emberley

53) Do not mention when you plan to meet some chick off the internet not even 5 minutes after you finish. It hurts the girls feelings and she'll wonder if you were thinking more of the internet chick during sex. ~Robin Michelle Emberley

Things you need to know about buying jeans - Fashion Tips and Style Guide for Men and Women

A denim jeans with a white shirt is my favorite. Fashion conscious people, both men and women love to have a collection of jeans in their wardrobe. But did you ever had a hard time choosing the perfect jeans for yourself? I always had. So with so many brands, types and colors, it may be hard to find one that is right for you. There are so many brands to choose from and expensive ones are sometimes better quality and have a wider range of washes and fades.

Some of the popular jeans brands are: Wrangler Jeans, Diesel Jeans, Evisu Jeans, 7 For All Mankind, Rock & Republic, Habitual, Joes Jeans, Paige Denim, Earnest Sewn, Hudson Jeans, James Jeans, Lee Jeans. High waist jeans started it all and are still in fashion. Low waist jeans are getting more popular nowadays. The best that I like the most is a flare jean. There are Skinny jeans that suit the best on slim body types. Trouser jeans suits taller body types. I prefer to wear white and lighter blue fades in summer and, bright colors such as grey, black and dark blue in winter.

Jeans always go with everything, and if you buy the right jeans, they will always be in fashion and style and always look good on you.

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Choices of jeans

There are five choices of jeans - fits, cuts, washes, fabric options and embellishments.

Fits refer to the looseness or tightness of jeans.

The cut refers to the actual shape of the jeans.

Washes refer to the soft worn look.

Fabric options refer to different weaves, weights and composition on the jeans.

Embellishments are decorations on the jeans. These are mainly for jeans for females.

There are several terminology used in jeans fashions such as - straight, boot cut, flared, tapered. The answer to choosing the right jeans depends on your body type and the style to match it. Of course you cannot compromise with confort. Men's fitting jeans are easier to find as there are less variants. Women on the other hand usually go for the long and leaner look. This makes them look taller and sleek.

Denim Jeans has always been in style and fashion.

	Not Your Daughter's Jeans Tummy Tuck Women's Premium Blue/Black Denim Wide Leg Retro Trouser Jean, Blue/Black, 6 Price: $108.00
	HURLEY VIVIENNE STRETCH DENIM TROUSER RINSE 0 Price: $68.00
	Joybies Durable Denim Piddle Pants(tm) for XXX Large Male Dog (Measuring 30"-32" From Collar to Base of Tail) Price: $37.95
	Jeanstar Women's Helena Denim Pant, Dark Rinse, 14 Price: $10.99 List Price: $44.00
	Not Your Daughter's Jeans Tummy Tuck Women's Cashmere Denim 5 Pocket boot Cut Jean, Cashmere, 16 women Price: $118.00
	Jeanstar Women's Ella Cinch N Inch Bootcut Jean, Rinse, 14 Price: $22.50 List Price: $48.00

How to choose the perfect fitting and comfortable jeans (For both men and women):

1. Comfortable: Don' just grab and pay. Try the jeans before buying. Make sure that you feel comfortable in it. Wear the jeans and look into the mirror and ask - Am I looking smart or Beautiful. Does this jeans suits me? Do I feel comfortable in this? If possible ask people in the shop. But the most important thing is that you should feel comfortable in it.

2. Colour: Choose light coloured jeans in summer and dark coloured jeans in winter.

3. Jeans that gets taper at the bottom: These kind of jeans suits most on females than on men. Men should avoid these.

4. Don't buy jeans that are ripped out at the knees or have holes and threads hanging out. These look good in movies, not in real life. Can you go to the office or party with these jeans on?

5. Do not pick any jeans with a number of unnecessary designer pockets. These just make it look ugly.

6. Choose jeans that fits your hips perfectly. It should not be too tight or too lose. You should feel comfortable in it. You should be able to put your hands in the front and back pockets comfortable and also you should be able to open the zip in time before it gets too late.

In case of any doubt while choosing the perfect jeans for yourself, you should always take the help of the salesgirl or the sales boy.

Jeans always go with everything, and if you buy the right jeans, they will always be in fashion and style and always look good on you.